Remember that time when you believed in yourself and truly thought anything was possible?
OR... Perhaps you never experienced that feeling.
"Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway."
~ Earl Nightingale
Some of us get sidetracked in life, while some of us never even made it on the track.
Some terms used are Karma, born under a black cloud, bad luck, doomed, etc. This list could go on endlessly. However, I'm ready to move on.
The work I do is about moving forward with your life. I believe these three areas define what we believe about ourselves.
1. What we surround ourselves with in our homes and the attention to how it's kept.
2. The beliefs we hold about ourselves and what were capable of.
3. The language we choose when speaking about what's possible.
These may not feel like some big drum roll moment, but they are. We start accepting things as they are, no longer questioning if we're happy with them. We become fragmented, but the attention given to these areas call all those pieces home.
Believe anything is possible from wherever you are in your life.
On the track but heading in a direction you no longer want, fell off the track and trying to find your way back on, or decide you'd like to get on this track and see what all the fuss is about.
So much of our early years informed so many of the beliefs we currently hold. Parents, schools, and everyone in between spent a lot of time telling us how we should feel and what we should do. Most of us never had the chance to make our own choices about what we believed. The stubborn (smart) few who resisted were labeled "troublemakers."
YIKES, who wants to be the troublemaker always in a time-out?
I'd be willing to bet some of those "troublemakers" are now labeled, Innovators.
Fast forward to you; a full-grown adult can find yourself questioning everything.
In my world, this is a beautiful thing! You've decided to turn off autopilot and become an active participant in your life.
No longer looking to be or do what you should or what others expect of you.
Will you be met with resistance? Yes. People need you to be who you've always been because that makes them happy. *Remember, this is about you.
Wouldn't it be nice to tune out the noise and hear your own voice? I don't mean avoiding responsibilities (the kids still need to be picked up) I suggest looking at how much time you spend doing what you should, never doing what you want.
There can be time for both, but you must believe that how YOU feel matters.
Everyone in your life will benefit, I promise—even the ones who may give you some shit along the way.
A little about me
I don't believe trying to find your purpose will lead you to it.
It's like trying to get someone to like you. Nothing about that is appealing, and it never ends well.
I'll save the details of my journey for another day. However, it took me 15 years to understand why my life turned into the dumpster fire it did. Seriously, my friends would agree with this description.
It started with a trip to the ER, believing I was having a heart attack. I wasn't; it was all stress related. I was thankful, but I was disgusted with myself. Laying there, waiting for my discharge papers, I felt mortified for being so dramatic. I stared at that fluorescent lighting and said, very loudly to no one, f*@k this! This is not going to be my life.
I had no idea where to begin, but I knew things needed to change. I started asking myself some fundamental questions. The first one being, "how did I end up here?"
I learned several things about myself during that time.
A. I had no plan for my life.
B. I had no idea who I was or what I wanted.
C. I did not have one goal for myself.
D. I never knew what I was looking for in a partner
I read self-help, positive psychology, dealing with grief, metaphysics, self-improvement, etc. The list of what I listened to and read is long. My mornings became a ritual of meditating, journaling, and reading. This is still my ritual, and I rarely miss a morning. This sets me up for my day, grounded in what I'm working towards.
I understood very clearly that my life all those years ago was the direct result of my limited mindset. My life could not have gone any other way.
I know I was intuitively led to the things that would eventually heal me. I didn't set out to become certified in the areas I did; I just followed what felt like the next natural step. I was curious and knew these things were significant based on what I was learning.
I loved Feng Shui and decided to study it. The same is true for becoming a Life Coach and Infinite Possibilities Trainer. I saw how each area positively impacted and reshaped my mindset, and I wanted to go deeper. The certifications became the cherry on the sundae.
Even with all the work I had done, I struggled a bit with calling myself a Coach. But that will always be the work, and I'm good with that. I don't believe there's a finish line when It comes to self-development. It's not about perfection.
I'm thrilled to say that my life today is magnificent, even with the bumps that will show up. I see everything so clearly now. Seriously, I need to pinch myself most days.
A. I now have a plan for my life.
B. I know who I am and what I want.
C. I have both long and short-term goals.
D. I'm not trying to look for anyone.
I settled on calling myself a Self Development Coach because I believe that's what our journey is about. I took the long, muddy, and winding path; I now know the shortcut! I'm confident in my ability to create the same shift in mindset for the people I work with.
"Success is not final, Failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts."